Breaking up a relationship may not be a failure
I've just read a bit of an article ("accidental" find) on how J-Lo and Halle Berry "can't keep a man", and how they "failed" to do so...now I know that people make "mistakes", but to me, I do not see the couples (married or not) breaking up their relationship, to be a "failure", as if one or both of them "failed" just by seperating...
Perhaps, sometimes, the main reason why people break up, is because it just wasn't "meant to be" anymore...because they had grown in different directions...because they became (or discovered that they were) incompatible, not complimenting one another...
Maybe, some people are not "meant to be together" forever...and it does not mean that they have "failed" if they break up...sure, it could sometimes, partly, be to do with some things that they need to grow and/or heal in themselves...but...we are forever growing and healing...
Maybe...some people are "meant" to have more than one or several different partners throughout their life, and that suits them as a person and their life path...and maybe someone is only meant to be with one person for the rest of their lives, for the same reasons, and maybe some people are "not meant" to be with anyone throughout this life, for the same reasons...
I am reminded, of how some older married couples, stay together with their partner (who has cheated on them, and/or has abused them, or just that they are not enjoying the relationship anymore...) mainly because they feel like they would be a "failure" if they got a divorce...
To me, I do not see people getting a divorce, as "wrong" or as a failure...if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be...
Maybe, some people are not "meant to be together" forever...and it does not mean that they have "failed" if they break up...sure, it could sometimes, partly, be to do with some things that they need to grow and/or heal in themselves...but...we are forever growing and healing...
Maybe...some people are "meant" to have more than one or several different partners throughout their life, and that suits them as a person and their life path...and maybe someone is only meant to be with one person for the rest of their lives, for the same reasons, and maybe some people are "not meant" to be with anyone throughout this life, for the same reasons...
I am reminded, of how some older married couples, stay together with their partner (who has cheated on them, and/or has abused them, or just that they are not enjoying the relationship anymore...) mainly because they feel like they would be a "failure" if they got a divorce...
To me, I do not see people getting a divorce, as "wrong" or as a failure...if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be...
Labels: destiny, divorce, fail, failed, failure, fate, individual, life journey, life lesson, life path, marriage, relationships, seperation
posted by Natsophia @ 6:25 pm
1 Comments:
A few more things that I feel like adding in relation to this: it does not necessarily mean that someone does not love their partner if they sleep with someone else, and/or break off the relationship...it's not black and white as in staying = love, and leaving = not love...sometimes, the relationship just does not "fit", is not part of their life journey, at the time...
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